And the Loser Is...

Today is July 6,2009 and as I said in my last post I'm calling on all mommy bloggers to devote their post to naming a person who dropped the ball and let a child molester go free so they could molest again. Congratulations Lisa Birdwell , assistant DA of Pittsburg City, Oklahoma!!!You too Judge Thomas Bartheld!You guys and the prosecutors let sixty year old David Earl get over 19 years knocked off of a 20 year sentence. Earl plead no contest to raping and sodomizing a four year old girl. He made her five year old brother watch.He'll serve less than a year in prison. The powers that be nonchalantly said they didn't feel they had a strong enough case. The little girl was too terrified to speak and her mother( who was living with Earl) didn't want to call attention to herself by making a big deal of it. David Earl's own daughter said he was a monster who raped her for years but no one was interested in her testimony. So here's the deal...please let's start making these people just as well known in the media as the monsters they let slip through the huge cracks of our judicial system. Then lets work to get rid of them. At a time when so many good people have lost their jobs, these losers should not be allowed to keep theirs. Pray for the little ones. Tomorrow Billy and I will blog about happier things.

Calling All Mommy Bloggers!!!

I don't like to get too serious with the tone of my blogs. I like to keep things light, funny, and hopefully inspirational. But something is really weighing heavily on my soul. I remember long ago being crushed by the realization of how many children were abused, abducted, molested, and murdered by monsters who were known criminals. Whack jobs previously jailed, then let out.
It was 1997 and I was doing a show when this sweet little 10 year old boy was abducted and killed in Beaumont, California. It was a big deal on every channel. Thousands of hearts were broken when the inevitable was reported on the news. They played and sang his favorite song at his funeral. I was destroyed by the event and became obsessed with the fact that our countryhad a huge problem with this. Then years later Oprah tackled the issue of catching sex offenders for awhile. She said something that stayed with me. She said America has to decide how it really feels about sex offenders because then, and only then would we get serious about putting these sickos away for good. I feel like we keep naming bills and laws and alerts after the children we didn't save. Things might be better but it's not good enough. The sex offender registering system is a bit of a joke to me because I'm always wondering how you can expect the bad guys to continue to tell the authorities where they've moved to? Honesty is not the primary character trait with this group. I'm also painfully aware that a lot of what I'm seeing on the news lately are moms and dads killing there own children. What do I do with that? What do WE do with that? Every single day there is some horribly tragic story about the latest little one to be abducted and then days later found in the most unthinkable way. This is insane! We can't let the slaughter of children become common. Think about this (and get graphic with it)... most likely, every single abducted and murdered child cried out and was absolutely terrified at some point before their death. Do you know how you feel about sex offenders now? Pick up your own children and see how small they are. Now imagine someone picking them up with intent to harm. I can't pretend this isn't happening even as I'm blogging. And I'm not one of those people who see myself as too powerless to make a difference. I am powerful and passionate. Thank God so are the rest of the mommy bloggers! So I'm calling out to you because my husband and I have had nothing but amazing support from fellow bloggers. THIS IS A MOMMY BLOG ALERT! America now has the reputation of being an unsafe place for children. Who do we blame? Where do we start? How about this? Who are the people directly responsible for letting these guys out? I think we should know their names as well as we get to know the victims and the perpetrators because they seem to get off scott free with their bad decisions. Who are these judges or lawyers or politicians even? Who are "they"? On Monday July 6, 2009 I would like every mommy blogger who reads this to find the name of some jughead who dropped the ball and blog about him or her. These people should be fired and replaced by someone with good common sense. Maybe there's more than one person to name. I'm trying to expose the ones who make the decisions to send these monsters back on the streets to hunt children. The ones who feel these guys are no longer dangerous. Seriously?! We now know that the killer of that sweet little boy had been a sexual predator for decades. You can choose a past or present case, you can choose a state other than your own, and it doesn't matter whether the case is well known or not. I just think we need to start holding individuals accountable instead of just saying that "the system" failed. You can't pin point "the system". You can't petition to have "the system" removed from it's position.Maybe we need to start putting the faces of corrupt judges on milk cartons. Maybe we need to put the pictures of politicians who fight for sex offenders to have the same rights as we do up in the post office with the rest of the wanted degenerates. Maybe things can begin to change if these people start to get as much press as some of the frivolous stuff on TV. I bet Nancy Grace would be more than happy to call them out! Please join me and mark your bloggy calendar and pass this along to all of your mommy blogger friends! It can't happen without all of you. Monday July 6, 2009 is MBA (Mommy Blog Alert) DAY! Dads we need your help too because you are our partners and you love your children as much as we do. So here's the deal... I'm going to hug and kiss my son now and whisper in his ear how very much I love him. You do the same with your kids. Then let's go to work and expose these idiots!

An Inconvenient Flu

Thanks to some loser who probably lives thousands of miles away, we have been out of the blogosphere for quite some time. Apparently both of our computers contracted some Hollywood movie type of Super Virus and we lost a lot of valuable data and time. We thought we had proper protection. We were wrong. This unfortunate event led us to ponder what kind of person creates these super bugs. Is it always the stereotypical evil genius teen with too much brain and not much else? Or are some of these jerks grown ups leading seemingly normal lives? It's hard to imagine saying a neighborly "Good morning" to someone who secretly possesses such a pointless skill. Most of us are going about our daily lives trying to make a positive difference in our little corners of the world. We wonder if it is possible that some of these enemies of technology could have families. We can't picture it, but it could be true. There may have been a time when it was just about having the ability to be destructive but now there's lots of money to be made. Giving your computer the sickness and selling the cure at the same time. One of the ultimate criminal acts. We can't put that mentality together with one who reads to their children at bed time or calls their mother each day. Can't imagine that person would do any kind of volunteer work although they obviously have a lot of time on their hands. We just know that this infection moved so fast, so violently from one computer to the other, we were literally stopped in our tracks. LOSER!!! What a waste of skin! So here's the deal... we're back for good now with more infection protection than a cyber space Howard Hughes. We hope those of you who were so gracious to follow our journey before and share yours with us as well, will continue to do so. And to the "swines" designing these viruses... GET A REAL LIFE!!!

Real Human Nature

Hollywood movies love to depict human beings like heartless savages. They make it seem like people wouldn't help one another in a disaster situation. How many times have you seen a city (usually New York for some reason) being destroyed and people stepping all over each other to get to the one car in town that has gas or some other ridiculous scenario like that? On September 11 2001, many brave men and women proved the overdone Hollywood point of view to be a myth. Given extreme circumstances most human beings are unselfish, loving, heroic. Well, I have to speak on something that just happened that really made me feel good about mankind. I was driving and pulled up to a stop light and was in the right turn lane as two young men were crossing the street. One was in an electric wheelchair and the other was towing behind him in a regular wheelchair. The guy in the electric wheelchair made it to the sidewalk and as he was going up the curb the other young man behind him lost his balance and his chair flipped back into the middle of the crosswalk. Obviously I am alarmed because neither of the men have legs. I left my car in the middle of the street and ran to help the young man. By the time I got there (in seconds) three other men had left their cars in different parts of the road including the opposite side of the street. There was a Hispanic guy, an African American, a Caucasian, and myself. We didn't even acknowledge each other. We just all grabbed a body part and began to lift him. As we were doing this he yelled, "Leave me alone! I can do it myself." We were all men and we understood the loss of dignity thing so without blinking we let him help himself and stood as a kind of barrier against oncoming cars as he dragged himself through the crosswalk by his hands. Once he was back in his chair and everything was alright, I was struck by a number of things at once. The fact that no one thought twice about running to help, that these were men of different ages and races helping each other, and most important, nobody spent time patting themselves on the back afterward. Nope, not like Hollywood movies at all. I'm an emotional man and I have to admit things like this get to me because it reaffirms what I genuinely feel about people. So here's the deal... after September 11th Sharon told me she would never again be able to watch one of those movies where a city is totalled and people act like mindless creeps. She had seen the real thing. We all did. It turns out that Anne Frank wasn't just speaking from a naively optimistic point of view after all. She was wise beyond her years. We need to remember and know that in our hearts. With all the talk of our nation sinking into a scary depression, Hollywood probably expects the worst from us. Thank God we know better.

Sex And The Seedy!

Okay, let's get into it. You know how the saying goes. Once you're married with kids, sexy time goes out the window. Say good by to silk gowns and hello to flannel nightshirts. Well, we'd be lying if we said there hasn't been an element of that with parenthood, but quite frankly that could also be attributed to fatigue from the crazy schedule we kept( and still have) even before we had our son. We had this conversation about a month ago with close friends of ours who are married w/children and like us, also in show business. We all agreed that having kids has forced us to get creative with regard to the frequency of love making. Another friend of ours said when you have little ones you don't make love, you take love. Ooooooooo baby! Sounds so... so... dirty. But it's true. There are times we feel like teenage lovers sitting on the sofa in our parents living room trying to cop a feel. We exchange glances across the dinner table, play footsie under that same table, find reasons to go to the kitchen at the same time. Better yet, one of us will go, give the other the eye, and then the other one will follow five minutes later for no reason. Given that our kitchen is the size of a postage stamp, we always have an excuse to "bump" into each other. Ooops. Let's just say we really enjoy cooking together. Even our communication is affected. With a five year old you still have spelling out sentences as an option, but you also speak in code. And sometimes our code is loaded with innuendo. Even an innocent discussion about what to bring to our son's school party can turn PG-13. SHARON: "I think I'll bring cookies this time. Kids love cookies." BILLY: "Yeah, that works but get enough so that I can have some." SHARON: "You can have some." BILLY: " Good because I really want some. Been thinking about it all day and I really want some of your cookies." SHARON: "You want mama's cookies daddy?" BILLY: "Daddy wants mama's cookies right now!" ELIJAH: "Can I have cookies too mommy?" Screeeeeech! On the surface this seems like an incomplete pass, but we like to think of these stolen moments as Redefined Foreplay. When you have children every nook and hallway of your home becomes a dark and sordid meeting place. It's kinda cool. The build up to the deed has to be so carefully orchestrated that by the time you get to it, you're about to explode. Isn't that a great thing? Isn't that the way it was when you first got married? Maybe the chase, the pursuit of it makes it even better over time. And you know getting caught by your babies is absolutely not an option because then Luuuucyyyyy, you got a lot of splaining to do. So here's the deal... we believe in letting your kids see as much love and affection between you and your spouse as possible. It's healthy for all involved. As far as sex goes, use the little ones to your advantage. Let them do what they do, and you two have fun navigating your way around their nosy little hynees. There is no greater "walk of shame" than the one we do to the breakfast table after a night of success (read that like Borat). We've changed back into our flannels by then. We kiss our sweet son good morning without looking him directly in the eye, lest he see what a naughty mommy and daddy he has. Then we make pancakes. Together. In our tiny kitchen. Ooops.